[Rex9001] Selur91 - I'm sorry, I said what I don't mean in the heat of the moment

[Selur91]

BYOND account: Selur91

Ban/note type Server Ban

Ban/note duration: Permanent
Ban/note reason:Banned by host: You, or another user of this computer or connection is banned from playing here. The ban reason is: Rule 1 and 11, went on a tirade about neurodivergent fascists
"Jesus you neurodivergents want the world to addapt to you but you dont give a crap about others", this combined with plenty of ooc in ic, going on about antagonists ic make me doubt this was anything but ooc gamer rage. DCd before I had a chance to question them. This ban (BanID #76478) was applied by Rex9001 on 2025-06-27 19:3834 during round ID 253636. This is a permanent ban.
Time ban was placed: 27/06/2025 19:38:34
Server you were playing on when banned: Manuel
Round ID in which ban was placed: 253636

Why are you making this appeal? (Put an x in the boxes):
() - The ban/note is factually incorrect
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() - The ban/note needs modification
() - The ban was unjustifiably harsh
(X) - I was permabanned and I want another chance

Why should this appeal be accepted?:

I want to say I'm sorry about what I said about neurodivergent people.
I've had a thought day and I was getting heavily frustrated by seeing her dismantle all of my work and she kept completely ignoring my pleas to adapt it so it would not annoy her instead of having her grieff everything I did.
I know it's no excuse and I completely agree that the way I handled it is wrong and I don't feel the way I said, I said something about a group instead of the individual in question and i'm ashamed of doing so even in the heat of the moment.
So I repeat, I'm sorry to all the neurodivergent people I insulted with that, it was not fair of me to attack everyone for just one person and I'm sorry.

To get some context into it I will try to put my side of the story here.
I've had a thought day and I wanted to play something to get my mind off, so I decided to try into a pet project of using the transport pipes system to make a "subway" of sorts looping around the map.
Doing so I didn't realise at first that one of the bits I did was partially blocking a side of the hall, it could still be climbed but was not walkable.
Turns out that the person in question saw that, didn't like it and instead of just telling me that that bit was not walkable so I could fix and learn, or just dissemble that bit she was petty enough to disassemble all of it, that I had been working on for almost 40 minutes. You can already imagine how annoying that is if you've ever had some project of yours just undone with no given reason or a bit of communication.
When I tried to talk to her about why she was disassembling I was completely ignored at first, after I started to get a bit more heated and was telling her that she was disassembling a line that could be walked over, and walking on top of it to prove that it was no disturbance to the flow of the hallway I finally got an answer from her who finally stopped ignoring me and disassembling the whole thing.
She then pointed me to a corner that was walkable because I used the walkable diagonal exactly for that reason, I tried to tell her that the diagonal made it walkable and tried to ensamble it to show her, but she just wouldn't let me rebuild it or heard my claim. With made the frustration from seeing your work destroyed with no reason add up with the frustration of talking to someone who is just ignoring what you tell them.
She then procedes to show me a bit that was indeed blocking the hall like I mentioned earlier, so I agreed that that it was wrong because it needed to be climbed and that I was going to fix it, but she didn't need to destroy all of my work because 3 tiles were annoying her.
Not only she did not offer to teach me help fix that bit, like many other players do when they encounter a newbie doing something wrong.
But she still wouldn't agree that a bit can be fixed without destroying ALL of my work of and had zero empathy or intent on communicating to find a middle ground where I could fix the bit that was wrong. Or any other part that anyone thought It could be improved, like I've said I'm learning and I'm fully open to suggestions.
As you can probably guess my frustration with her was at a maximum already seeing that she couldn't be reasoned to stop disassembling the whole thing and I did wrong by saying "Jesus you neurodivergents want the world to adapt to you but you don't give a crap about others" for with I'm really sorry and it's something I said out of pure frustration in the heat of the moment but also not true since many people on the spectrum do care about the feelings of others. It's just her that wanted it her way and didn't give a care in the world for what others had to say or feel with 0 empathy.

I did also apologise for that particular phrase not long after once I realised the stupidity I had said and I corrected that she was just being a fascist having her way steamrolling over whatever others had without giving us a right to do our own or even have a voice.
Despite that I was also insulted back by the captain who started spreading lies about me calling him fascist(With you can check the logs, I didn't) and that I had brain root after me apologising. Apparently he's never been wrong on their life.

After that the argument got heated once you add being insulted to the frustration of the previous event and how hard it is to acknoledge one has been wrong so I decided to just leave the game before this thing would affect my mood go even further down and calm myself to with the admin in question couldn't talk with me about the issue.

Regardless of whether I'm unbanned or not I still want to do right about the people I insulted and say I'm sorry, what I said it's wrong, it's not what I believe and it's something that came out in a moment of anger and frustration that was getting to me in a moment where I'm not particularly at a good point and seeing such bad faith in her hitted hard.
But one thing is for sure: Everyone that does no harm to others are good, regardless of anything else that you're. And what I've said goes again that core value of mine for with I'm sorry I didn't think what I was saying and I said something stupid.

[NoxVS]

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[TheRex9001]

Hey, seeing as how you've admitted fault here and apologized to the people involved I don't see it fitting for this to remain a permanent ban, I'll take it down to 1 week instead because you did still say some nasty stuff.

[TheRex9001]

I’ve applied the reduction, you should be able to login in a week, if you can’t please inform an admin and we’ll see what’s gone awry. As a final word, I have faith in you not repeating this but please think twice before you send something, stuff that happens to your character in game should not be taken personally.