An0n3 wrote:I cannot summarize this, read it.
I am so sorry you are going through this, Just so my comment can reach you, you sir, have affected my internet life and forum trending more than anyone alive. I'm not on facebook, myspace or any social media platform. One of my biggest internet memories beside my teenage chatango trolling times (to my shame) is you standing up and taking over my favorite games administration, albeit temporarily and you deserve respect for it, no matter your intentions, you did a good thing.
Your grandfather feels like he is in hell, Anyone would, His bathroom privacy is gone, and he must now lean on some poor schmuck to take care of it. Anyone first entering the world of healthcare will assume this is the worst thing in the world, and I will tell you first hand with every fiber of my being, he is wrong. he is not a burden just because he can't 'wipe his own ass' I'm sorry to bring that up first and foremost and then assure you it's not first and foremost in the same paragraph. I know that's confusing but bear with me.
Bathroom privacy is the first and most angrily lost amongst the elderly, Not that the elderly are poop deviants or any such nonsense, as cartmen from southpark said 'the bathroom is the last bastion of american freedom' that was a joke, but it wasn't far from the truth, nobody would be happy with a stranger holding their dick to pee and that's AT BEST what your grandfather is going through. the alternative being he feels a cold spot in his loins and realizes the obvious, that he has, without his wilpower or sentience involved, wet himself.
that is hell. no matter how you slice it. and enjoying or even loving his care-givers only adds to the guilt and shame of such events. again I only focus on the voiding of bladders and evacuation of bowels because that's what most elders seem to focus on, for understandable reasons, even with terrible pain to consider, this is the first thing most people cannot accept. followed immediately and sometimes beforehand is being a financial burden to their offspring.
I can only tell you, my facility isn't known for the greatest of care in this nation, but I still cannot point to anyone who sincerely does not give a shit. Mcdonalds walmart and even some metalurgical plant jobs, you could easily point out the people who didnt give a fuck
Caregivers are doing their best across the board even if it may not feel that way at times to assure our elders and help them recover, I personally care for an elder in their mid-100, and while I will not identify their specific age, gender or anything at all, they enjoy their time with us, be it bingo, (LOCAL BIG CITY VACATION REDACTED) or an baloon ride, It all comes down to their perseverance. and attitude on entering care.
Some people are not built to accept such care, no matter how it is presented, and I cannot give you assuarances that your grandfather will break new records in longevity, all I can tell you is that the only real thing you can do in the end is assure your living ancester matters, and mattered. we're all doing our best to turn the great cosmic wheel that is life on earth, and everything counts.
Don't judge your parents aunts and uncles for not letting him go, what did you expect them to do? smother him with a pillow? Just accept our reality, and that any passing isn't pleasant. few go in their sleep at the height of their success. and when they do, it's a shame from drugs or alcohaul. earth is brutal and sad, but also motivational when you consider our successes.
SJ212
Dremels and their attachments and cutoff wheels are great to have, but you need to focus on rent and food at this point. do not go off the rails with your first real bank statement,
if you must spend, invest in angle grinder discs and such, not bitch hobby versions thereof. those are for later, when you've honed your talent enough to pay for such things. DO NOT SPEND EDUCATION MONEY ON NO-ESSENTIAL LUXURIES FOR A JOB YOU DO NOT HAVE!
angle grinders have everything an early welder needs, wire brush, grinder wheels, cutoff wheels etc etc, the rest is easy, mig tips, tig rods, brazing rods, rigs etc etc you can buy when you're being payed for your education.
be smart.
