I ragequit yesterday, and after thinking about it, I spend too much time on TG to walk away and pretend I don't care. I have been feeling more and more unwelcome lately on Manuel by some of the admins who are most commonly on. Again these are just my thoughts and feelings. I'll try to keep this post specific and brief, but I am going to get upset all over again I'm sure.
Yesterday and the day before I got bonked by two separate admins, adipem and walter. They're not bmon, but had the same untouchable "you're already wrong that's why I'm bonking you" tone. Pretty much every PM I've ever had with bmon is shitty and accusatory, and I made an unsuccessful attempt to point out my experience
here. Since then I just kinda accepted that we clashed and I don't think they're a very good admin, but that's ok. Looking through my ticket history on statbus I have a lot of interactions with a lot of admins, and they mostly run about how I would expect. Sometimes you're simply asked to tell the story of what's been going on, sometimes it's a specific question, sometimes I'm in the wrong from the get-go. After roughly 2000 hours of playing, the workings of admins is mostly a mystery. I still have no defined expectations of what to expect in a bwoink.
This is a good example of what I think is a great bwoink. Sure I'm very wrong, but the point is this bwoink
DISCOVERS and
DEESCALATES. I guess I can't see the admin policy page as a user but surely there are some standards for decorum and neutrality when not dealing with extreme cases. Some serious griefer deserves a funny "the fuck is this you idiot?" type of bwoink sure. As a player acting in good faith, it can be really jarring to get a bwoink, and even more jarring when the tone doesn't match my intentions at all. I of course also understand that a single interaction
does not make for a bad admin, even if I think they are
very, very wrong and
injust.
Both bwoinks were proceeded by unanswered tickets asking for help with things that
felt like pretty obvious
grief. This certainly adds to my frustration. So, here is the first of the two bwoinks:
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From Ticket #5 during round 223843 on Manuel:
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2024-02-12 23:15:11:
Ticket Opened by waltertruck: Heya, did you take that armor off of a corpse in medical?
2024-02-12 23:15:30:
Reply from t3hsurge: Yes, I think it was the husked RD
2024-02-12 23:16:14:
Reply from waltertruck: Alrighty, I'll just get straight to the point and say please don't just loot dead people in medical so that you can wear their armor.
2024-02-12 23:17:16:
Reply from t3hsurge: It nearly killed me and was harmfulish I was finding the source of the issue wdym. I'm not like hard keeping it and the RD certainly isn't up yet prolly
2024-02-12 23:17:49:
Reply from t3hsurge: like, idgi for real I clowned around with it a bit but took it off to stop the weaponized everything???
2024-02-12 23:17:56:
Reply from waltertruck: I mean, it only looks bad when you steal from a corpse and walk off while wearing the armor, I can't really glean that your plan is "give it back" when you've just left while wearing it.
2024-02-12 23:18:23:
Reply from waltertruck: And if it's really an issue with him using it to weaponize everything, it's better to go scream at sec about it than taking it to wear yourself.
2024-02-12 23:18:27:
Reply from t3hsurge: yo for real what are you talking about this isn't some glamor item this is harmful en masse I've never really seen this armor before
2024-02-12 23:19:21:
Reply from t3hsurge: I just left medical I've had no time IC to handle this at all. I really do not appreciate the tone of this bwoink, I haven't done anything bad AT ALL.
2024-02-12 23:19:58:
Reply from t3hsurge: This armor nearly killed me and was harming everybody in medbay it's ghost shit like for real what the hell?
2024-02-12 23:20:26:
Reply from waltertruck: It doesn't really matter if it's traitor loot or not, running off with an item on a dead body and wearing it yourself looks pretty bad.
2024-02-12 23:21:20:
Reply from t3hsurge: it's not traitor loot it's a research item that nearly killed me and harmed a bunch of people this bwoink is fucking ugly you're like justifying your interpretation instead of modifying it based on WHAT I'M TELLING YOU VERY CEARLY
2024-02-12 23:21:51:
Reply from t3hsurge: like, for real if you do not get my explanation please get another admin in on it or something
2024-02-12 23:22:56:
Reply from waltertruck: If they're being an issue with it and using it to harm everybody in an area, please ahelp about it rather than switching your tone to yelling through text that it's okay and that you can in fact loot it to wear yourself instead.
2024-02-12 23:24:43:
Reply from t3hsurge: they were DEAD it was activating while they were dead during firefighting and in medbay it was super harmful I took it to figure out what the fuck it even was, clowned around with it for a couple minutes and you bowink me going Y U LOOT BODY?!! like, you know I'm not out here being a shitter but the tone from the getgo was like a fucking tribunal where I was already guilty
2024-02-12 23:25:06:
Reply from t3hsurge: like, what is this bwoink is bmon logged into your account?
2024-02-12 23:26:53:
Reply from waltertruck: Yes in fact, I was working off the information that a guy had his stuff taken and that someone was now running around with it on, and then the only response I got was immediate hostility instead of explaining that the dead body in particular was causing the issue, not that it was activating while he was alive. <br />
Your tone is also doing you absolutely zero favors during this, as you could just simply have started with a calmer explanation of "the dead body still activates the armor and I took it since it was impossible to treat correctly" rather than accusing me of being another admin and calling it a tribunal.
2024-02-12 23:28:22:
Reply from t3hsurge: I spend all day playing some of the best NT-aligned MRP gameplay in my opinion, and today was an especially selfless day for the sake of the rounds and event and good vibes, my prayer goes unanwered, and then while figuring out that some sci armor I've never seen in 2000 hours of gameplay nearly kills me and hurts people in medbay and while figuring that out you start his bwoink. Fuck me man right? You treated me like guilty thieving shit from the start don't backpedal now.
2024-02-12 23:29:21:
Reply from t3hsurge: I'm not going to brown nose either now that you've figured it all out. Sorry for fucking existing.
2024-02-12 23:29:31:
Reply from t3hsurge: I'm not wrong.
2024-02-12 23:29:48: Client disconnected
2024-02-12 23:43:53: <a>WalterTruck</a>/(Ar-Leth Ssar) has created a message for T3hSurge<br />I'm not noting you off it or anything because once you explained to context fully it was a valid reason to take off the armor, but I need you to understand that you should try to put some more effort into explaining the situation fully before jumping to insulting me and an unrelated admin. Giving me the partial explanations that "It's not a problem" "It was hurting people" and "I've never seen this before" alongside the fact that you were wearing it lead me to the conclusion that you didn't like him using it earlier, so you took it off his body to use for yourself. Once you actually fully explained how his corpse was doing it and you took it off of him, I could actually operate with full context off your end and say that it was justified for the situation.<br />
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Additionally, it isn't "backpedaling" to change your view on a situation once you have context, and neither is it "brown-nosing" to simply speak in a tone that isn't fully aggressive.
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Now, I would have liked to have found out why I was probed about this in the first place. For some additional context, I was a clown this round also working in atmos. I spent the whole round improving atmos and being a kind and chatty clown, waiting around mostly hoping my atmosian valentine would return. I hear on the radio that ordinance is in flames, and as the only person actively in atmos and wearing the atmos modsuit, I go out for the rescue! It was pretty great, I put out the fires and pulled the husked RD out. You can get the rest of the story from the bwoink. Why the RD I saved presumably ahelped me taking off their armor when it was hurting folks and then playing with it a bit to discover how it works... as clown... why would they ahelp that? But walter starts the bwoink fine, asking a specific question and getting an answer. They then accuse me of hard looting this armor from a dead person in medbay. You asked ONE probing question then just straight up say "I am cutting to the chase, stop looting corpses in medbay" like DUDE. Not fucking ok if you don't know the facts. Somebody I see nearly every day, in a position of power, who should absolutely be familiar with me as a player by this point. In one message with all that authority you've just destroyed me. Am I resented by walter, or is this just a case of them sucking at investigating and arbitrating grief? I do not know admin standards but I really hope they demand better than this. From here on out the bwoink is just late discovery and that kind of self-justifying thing where it's like "oh well but you should have done x" and you explain and now they say, "You should have done y; Oh you were too mad you need to be better this way!" etc. I am rambling now because I'm getting mad all over again so I'll move on.
Here's the second of the two that pushed me over the edge:
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From Ticket #7 during round 223889 on Manuel:
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2024-02-13 20:47:06:
Ticket Opened by adipemdragon: Ok, can I ask what the fuck you're doing.... any of that for.
2024-02-13 20:48:54:
Reply from t3hsurge: Really? With all this going on this doesn't make sense? I guess I could have just given the ID to them right away instead but like, someone ascended into a wizard in front of my eyes? I'm so confused.
2024-02-13 20:49:54:
Reply from t3hsurge: I'm like trying to RP a religious experience without like, breaking any rules and getting a bwoink is really scary ngl.
2024-02-13 20:50:41:
Reply from adipemdragon: I do get that, but also, a boss is still a boss. Was just wanted to make sure you didn't take it too far.
2024-02-13 20:52:07:
Reply from t3hsurge: I understood right away not to "help" the wizard, so I just stayed in the chapel where they ascended and I got miracles and stuff. I figured I'd put up a stun fight to HoS to make the narrative clear but now I just kinda feel bad
2024-02-13 20:53:35:
Reply from adipemdragon: It's. Fine. I genuinely just didn't want it to go too far. Feel free to get at the HoS now, I'm giving you a chance here
2024-02-13 20:55:11: <a>AdipemDragon</a>/(Toma Prescot) launched a pod towards T3hSurge/(Greg Davidson),
2024-02-13 20:55:52:
Reply from t3hsurge: I dunno man you or the other admin was like, actively participating from heaven in what we were doing and to get bonked saying like "why are you doing ANY of this" is really jarring I don't really know how to pick up from where I left off.
2024-02-13 20:56:36:
Reply from t3hsurge: It's mostly me I've been stressed lately and last round I told myself I'd take a quieter less social job
2024-02-13 20:58:18:
Reply from adipemdragon: ...to be fair, I was actively trying to get people hurt just so they'd Stop doing this, between the fireballs and the lightnings and the subtlemessages and the local narations, my fault for not communicating that better
2024-02-13 21:02:41: SubtleMessage: <a>AdipemDragon</a>/(Toma Prescot) -> <a>T3hSurge</a>/(Greg Davidson) : if oyu want, you can ghost out to keep watching, I just wanted to make sure the body wasn;'t rotting
2024-02-13 21:03:32: Closed by AdipemDragon
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Here I'm feeling burnt after two unanswered griefing ahelps. I also just specifically feel punished lately for being social and kind regardless or role, or going the extra mile trying to help the station/RP/round/story. So I go into this round thinking that and wanting to retract a bit and y'know find my center or whatever. So I sign up for jobs like chem, atmos and warden. I roll warden, do my job very well for about 30 minutes or maybe 20. Both officers talk about investigating calls for crew to chapel, and I give them instructions to get there. It's North, you know layout kinda confusing or whatever. I cave after a minute or two and decide to leave brig briefly to see the commotion. I guess I could have used cams but it's not the same. I get there, and after a minute a crewmember disappears, only to be revealed on the radio and briefly in-person later in the chapel that they "ascended" into an evil wizard. While all this is happening I feel glued to the chapel, this is like the round's main event. Feels bus-y. It's hard to relate in a story how organic the RP was, everybody was chanting and literal miracles happened. I was clearly from the get-go being interacted with in real time by an admin. After the crewmember disappeared, we continued to have like admin fireballs and healing while we shouted the same incantations. So like, this was really frustrating in context. I step out of my comfort zone for the RP, being extra careful not to self-antag beyond dereliction of duty and I guess verbal treason. I get bonked like this right after my late-arrival boss HoS showed up to the chapel like 15 minutes into this whole chapel thing. I do some religious zealotry RP and tell em to buzz off with a stun and disposals combo, and the "what the fuck are you doing?" comes in. As I'm replying to the bwoink the HoS kills me SSD for these crimes. I'm still not upset. It's the ending where I find out of the two admins adipem was the one doing the miracles on me and the other disciples after the crewmate ascended to a wizard. You were there, you caused this, and then you hit me with "what the fuck are you doing?" Do I even need to explain this? If this opener to a bwoink was meant to be lighthearted, big fucking fail.
I put a lot of time into this post, but it's a drop compared to my time on Manuel. I love Manuel and so very many of the players I see on a regular basis. I don't want to feel disliked or as if I am on eggshells by the admins I see in adminwho the most. I believe that a bwoink should be neutral, deescalating, investigatory, and just. I've included in this post examples of instead bias, verbal retaliation, and assumptions. While the decorum of TG admins is generally fucking incredible in my opinion, stuff like this is so jarring to me personally. I'm so invested in the people and I enjoy the game so much for other reasons too. I just feel stuck bottling up admin interactions like these, or the bmon post, or the example with anne I gave. I don't use these forums really, but I hope this does some good. I think of SS13 as a grand real-time shared narrative, creating unpredictable stories with friends and strangers. The opposite would be something we do see too, a deep desire to be cruel and petty to others without consequence. I don't ever want to feel like I'm being punished for doing my best.